Being questioned by the right people at the right time can lead to huge improvements in your life.

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I would love to take full credit for the successes I have enjoyed just 15 years into my professional life, but that would be disingenuous. My entire life— including a number of my best financial decisions — has been propelled by the right questions, asked by the right people, at just the right time. The resulting internal work I had to do in response to those questions is what brought me to where I stand today, happy, at transition number five.


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Tradition, without context, can be a powerful barrier to progress. It seals the eyes and ears to new possibilities. It makes pathways to new benefits forbidden. It cuts connections to personal and generational growth. This is what I think when I hear Naija sisters weighing their careers, their hopes, and their dreams against co-wife life in a polygamous marriage.

The question, “What else am I going to do" comes up so often that it’s clear to me that the Nigerian Woman might not know the intellectual, social, and economic value she already offers the globe. …


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We understand poverty by degrees like the winter cold. When my husband, a Nigerian, says he was “born with nothing,” he means he was a co-wife’s son treated poorly by his siblings. Eventually, he and his mother would leave his father’s compound and move back to her home village. He would grow up in poor but adequate housing, supported by a Mom who sold what she could in the town. …


If you are diagnosed with this autoimmune disorder like I was, you’ll probably have to make some difficult changes. They are worth it

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After four years of “What is it?” and three years of “What should I do next?” I have finally achieved hard-won peace with my Lupus diagnosis. As I was, you are probably tempted to see Lupus as the beginning of so many endings, but it doesn’t have to be. You can choose what Lupus means to your life. There are good odds that you can even control most of your short and long-term effects if you act quickly and with understanding.

First, Confirm Your Diagnosis


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So, you’re still marking papers in the middle of Netflix and chill. I know. You feel like if you don’t mark assignments at home, you’ll never catch up. And, depending on the task design you are employing, you might be right.

Let’s go through a paradigm shift together so you can spend your nights and weekends snuggling, snacking, laughing, and day-tripping.

Every teacher has favorite ways to check for understanding, and there are a lot of formative and summative ways to do so. Whatever written task types you decide to use —short answer quizzes, exit tickets, essays, presentations, etc. …


My husband loves his mother’s food. Why did I think I could I reproduce it?

My Actual First Pot of Stew

Without gari and stew, I can’t be full.

That’s my Nigerian husband. I knew that he would bring his food culture with him to the US when we married, so I started practicing early: memorizing Nigerian recipes, following Flo Chinyere and Zeelicious Foods on YouTube, experimenting with Semo.

The African-American adages about food are African after all. Naija sisters will tell you. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. A good man deserves a good plate. And if you don’t feed him, another woman will.

I could just hear it in my mind: “If you don’t feed…


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My teenage son won a Scholastic Gold Medal in “Personal Essay and Memoir” for a piece called “Behind the Grey Door.” It recounts what is was like to watch his father — my late husband — dying of Sickle Cell in the last months, weeks, and days before death. It is honest, poignant, and heartbreaking in many ways, but I confess there were two lines that I found more disturbing than all the others as his mother:

“My mother is not around until the late afternoon. Her new administrative job requires her to work as late as 6 pm, and…


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The Elephant in the Room: We’ve All Thought About It

Let’s begin this article by addressing the elephant in the room. We have all wanted to kill ourselves at some point for some reason. That may sound exaggerated, but consider with me the statistics on the reported instances of suicidal thinking in just the United States of America.

According to the CDC’s “2015 Suicide Facts at a Glance:”

  • An average 4% of US adults told someone they were thinking about suicide, 1% of which admitted they had a plan and were ready to execute it.
  • An average 17% of US high school students told someone they were thinking about killing…

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First, March 2020 Happened: The Unexpected Quarantine.

It’s hard to explain the difficulty of meeting students’ needs in the middle of a pandemic health crisis, isn’t it? Initially, individual teachers (or small teaching groups) dove somewhat haphazardly into spur-of-the-moment lesson modification in March of 2020, adopting their own teleconferencing tools, their own instructional flows to keep students interested, their own methods of monitoring attendance and engagement.

We spoke to each other in code via Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram posts, adapted ourselves based on advice from international virtual learning networks where questions like “Are you Skype, Zoom, Teams, or Meet” became the beginning of everything.

Many school districts…


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High school teacher here. Been teaching brick and mortar or blended, grades 6–12, for fifteen years (mostly Title 1, mostly face to-face). Been teaching virtually since March 2020. Got some tips and tricks for you. Save time. Don’t have a heart attack. Let’s get to it.

TDO Timothy

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